John,
First I would get a police report started. Then I’d reach out to the owner/father telling him what you suspect happen. Let him know that at this time you have no intention on removing the tree as your hoping it will heal itself, and you now have cameras on the property facing the tree in case of more retaliation. Let him know that “IF” the tree was to now fall on his house that he could be libel as you have on record him requesting the tree removed, and after denying his request you found the tree poisoned, and this is all documented with a police report of the vandalism.
Also tell him at the time “If” or when the tree will have to be removed you will be expecting him to cover the costs, or possibly face legal recourse to cover your costs and damages.
This might get his attention or he my not care! Either way he will know you know and that while your being respectful about it your not going to get pushed around.