Everyone I know is a conservative and from the conversations at the VFW, most of them are as well, so I was a little surprised that she didn't see the humor/irony in my comment. I have one liberal friend who is very open minded and was willing to read info I showed him on Google. He did modify his alarmism about global warming and did a complete 180* on gun control because he had to agree with the logic, but he's a unicorn when it comes to being an open minded liberal who listens and understands.
I do see your point, unless I already know the political beliefs of the listener, that particular joke could lead to a meltdown like we saw in the streets after Trump got elected, or an interesting, enlightening conversation. I try very hard to see all sides of a topic and endorse the logical, least expensive, smallest gov't solution to every problem. Hell who am I kidding? I've never seen a liberal carry on an interesting, enlightening conversation!
to date, I've never met a liberal who could rationally, logically state their position and show any advantage to the larger population. All of their programs are aimed at minorities to make them feel more included, empowered, or enriched - but it's always at the expense of the taxpayers.
For example, there is a grant for blacks living in San Diego to buy their first home who make less than 120% of the median income. It gives them $40,000 toward their home purchase, tax free, with no repayment. Even if you were a first time home buyer, you don't qualify because you're white. How is that not racist? If there was a program to help white people buy their first home, it would take less than one second for them to cry "racist" and shut the program down. If I said this was a liberal program, would I be incorrect?
Now the above is an example of how I discuss topics like that, without getting ugly. The other person might get upset and ugly, but I have no control over other people's behavior. I would hope that everyone could have a civil, well informed discussion of current events and issues that concern all of us. You're right, a lot of people can't do that and the conversation devolves into emotional ranting.
That grant program is actually in effect, BTW.
https://www.lisc.org/san-diego/homebuyers/program-guidelines/