The rise of FAFO parenting: is this the end of gentle child rearing?

Mom and Dad had a big wooden paddle that weren't afraid to use!
They ran a tight ship and I appreciate that. I didn't appreciate growing up as a kid (LOL) but it all worked out better in the end.
Parents need to be PARENTS, not their kids friend. Kids have enough friends...they need guidance and tough love along with compassion and all that good stuff.
 
Back in the 80's my Dad made a paddle for his then Girlfriend who had three kids that were hellions. Well, the boys were... not so much the girl.

The "Paddle" was a 24" 2x4 with a handle shaped cut out and holes drilled through the face of it for aerodynamics/efficiency.

We had every other weekend visitation with my Dad, so we weren't around for the real action and never caused any shit to have that used on us.

But her kids... they got smacked regularly by their Mom... not my Dad... and we LOVED hearing about it. It was an absolute necessity for the oldest of the boys.
 
It only took a couple of very minor punishment sessions for the kids to fear fucking up or lying around here.

I always put them in timeout when they screwed up. I told them that they were in here for X minutes, and I would come back and tell them if their behavior mandated a spanking. I would the put a timer in front of them to stare at.

This would:

1. Let me calm down and approach it rationally.
2. Make them dread what was coming.

Usually, any spanking given was super light since it didn’t take much for them to lose their shit. :ROFLMAO:
 
My dad treated it as a sport. When I really effed up he told me to start running. When he caught me I got my ass beat. I quit running after a few times... Then it was "go get the belt for me". I always hated that🤣

To be honest, I don't think these newer generations have the stomach for it. All talk and no action. If they do to it, they're going to get shamed....
 
Feared dads belt that’s for sure and our asses had hoped he had a belt cause if he didn’t it was whatever he got his hands on and it hurt more.

Other things I remember we got dropped off at grandmothers house when our parents aunts and uncles went out so it was us and cousins.we raised hell and she couldn’t catch me we had good laugh and thought she gave up. Boy was I wrong when parents came to get us I got a whooping.

Back then we could get a whoopin from and family adult if we acted up todays generation got soft and hope the old days return todays kids need it.
 
I have 4 kids (18,16,14,9) three oldest are boys and the youngest is a girl… just like all kids, they have each required different discipline approaches. I am raising them much the same that I was. The punishment met the crime…. No problem spanking when warranted , which got fewer and fewer with each kid because they saw what happened to an older sibling when they made the same mistake … we run a tight ship and have had very few times that I had to square up and say go ahead and hit me, you’ll wish you didn’t but never had to. A couple up against the wall in their face that put the fear of God in them. Too many kids these days have no respect for elders or authority and I wasn’t raised to lack it, and by God my kids won’t either. They are far from perfect but raising them “old school” has yielded great results so far…. Heck, I have an 18 year old that still lets me know where he’s going and with who which confirms a lot for me. He doesn’t even like breaking the speed limit 😂. He may turn out better than I have!! They all love our country, salute the flag, question stupidity, respect authority, and are bleed red conservatives! Bam!!
 
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Man it is tough raising kids. I am 38 and only 13 years into being a parent - my youngest will be 8 soon. I don't whoop my kids, but they get/got "popped" on the butt (or whatever tender spot is available) from time to time, to remind them to straighten up when they start acting ugly. It took a little bit (honestly started a little late after realizing it was in fact NOT a bad thing) but they know what not to do most of the time. There can be a fine line between having some grace and not taking no shit. I don't want them to be scared of me or mom, but they need to know its not smart to push it or to do the wrong thing, especially after the first time. They aren't little assholes, no where near it, and are fine examples around their friends and class mates. That is important to me. Just in the last year I have started to get a little more strict with things, but I am not a drill sergeant by any means. If I have to say certain things twice, its louder and quite a bit more powerful the second time - that is when their eyes get big. I don't know if we are doing it right but I think we are doing ok.

I got just a couple of whooping as a kid, but never anything extreme. Most of the time it was because my younger sister framed me.
 
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