As a parent do you ever lose the anxiety for your kids?

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My son lives in Minnesota temporarily while in training for work. He is 24. He has been there a year.
I knew he was meeting his girlfriend in kansas city for valentines weekend, and I travel alot for work, so I gave im about 14,000 rental car points so he could rent instead of driving his truck. Found out tonite that he didn't want to use the points as it would take alot of them, and he would only be out of pocket the taxes etc, which i told him i would gladly pay.
So he's driving his truck.
It's about 4-5 hours i think, not crazy, but god my anxiety shot thru the roof thinking of him breaking down.
I guess I put my dad thru it also, but hell back in the late 80's early 90's but I knew my way around a toolbox and repairs.
I remember breaking a ball joint on my truck in a podunk town in SE okla, and changing it in a grocery store parking lot one night, with virtually no tools and for damn sure no you tube.

He knew I was pissed and he said well I guess I'll let you know if your right or not.
My buddy said man you got to let it go, let him figure it out, but it scares me to death about a breakdown.

Daughter is 20 and last summer jumped in her car without mom telling me, drove to galveston with her buddies, drove me crazy when i found out, no checking oil, no checking tires, just go.
I have a horrible fear of not being there to help them like I always have on these type situations.

I know there's alot of parents with growing up kids on here, does it every go away?
 
As a Dad of 3 Daughters, the answer is NO. It never goes away. But isn’t that what Dads are for 😎
 
LOL, I know! But imagine what we made it through at those ages with much less resources. They learn from mistakes and challenges, but dang is it hard to stand on the sidelines and let it unfold
 
And yes constant anxiety. Not sure if it goes away. Not sure this helps, but your not alone!
 
I lost my anxiety over my kids when they were in their late teens. They ran with a good group of friends and I was usually the last person they would call when something went wrong. They were very good at figuring it out and getting back on the road. They would call me after the fact to let me know what happened, what they did to fix it, and everything was ok. Usually the only time they called when they had an issue was to bring the trailer because they had exhausted all other options. My wife on the other hand is a different story, when she is on a road trip I always worry until I get the call that she arrived.
 
I am eternally grateful I didn't have "helicopter parents", and I managed to not become one. NOT saying you are, BTW. My wife, on the other hand, is the definition of helicopter mom...
 
Absolutely hasn’t gone away one 23yr old son has a pro r now supercharged . Also has a good career ahead of him and has a attitude like his dad
 
I have 4 - 22, 21, 19 and 18. 2 girls, 2 boys.

The anxiety never goes away, at least not yet.

But I will say for each of them its totally different for different reasons. Certain things they do I have no doubts or concerns, even some things mentioned here...nope, they got it handled. I will sleep like a baby.

Other thing stress the shit out of me, because whatever crap they can possibly get into, I was worse and know where dumb decisions lead LOL. There really is just one I have to stay 3 steps ahead...and he's potentially close to going to live with Uncle Phil in Idaho, before his mom loses her mind.
 
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