Need help/advice please, Mother in Law served with 30-day eviction notice

1. Make plans to move the Mom ASAP, time is ticking no matter how you look at it. Mentally align yourself with her being gone from the property VERY SOON.

2. The daughter is 100% going to sell that property for profit. She doesn't give a fuck about any of you. There is nothing friendly going on with this situation.

3. Real estate and housing show EVERYONE's true colors, when the time comes. Friends, family... will all screw someone over when you least expect it. Apply this lesson to the rest of your friends and family so that you can be prepared if this situation recurs.

Good luck.
 
Such a shitty situation, feel bad for your wife and you, this landed in your hands.

"Yore lack of preparation, will not become my emergency" said @BaBaBouy to a fellow dude in our camp...try to live my life by those wise words.

Problem here is its yore wife's mom.
 
Crusty said:
Such a shitty situation, feel bad for your wife and you, this landed in your hands.

"Yore lack of preparation, will not become my emergency" said @BaBaBouy to a fellow dude in our camp...try to live my life by those wise words.

Problem here is its yore wife's mom.
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Jes
 
Spoke with 2 lawyers, one actually referred to the 2nd one. 2nd one stated that since Carol is a "Tenant at will", meaning she didn't pay rent cause her boyfriend handled expenses...she's SOL!!!
The Eviction will stand and then it will go to the court. That will buy her some time, but then she's got an eviction on her credit if she doesn't handle it.

So, to re-quote, but slightly change the infamous Bouy @BaBaBouy ......Their lack of preparation is NOW OUR EMERGENCY!!!!!!!!
Eff.
 
Life changes as it rolls on and things get put on hold.

My MIL got covid 5 years ago. She lived in Washington. We went to help her, then saw the conditions she was living in and decided to move her in with us and sell the house. House full of mice, roof leaking, and like 4 acres of overgrown blackberries.

She is 88 and still surfing the web and walking an hour a day.

Don't know what to tell you to do with the MIL's son. Good luck.
 
A little update on this cluster-Eff!
I called the daughter yesterday. I knew my MIL and my wife would be too emotional or upset, so I told them I'll call her.
I can take the emotion out of it since I don't know her and have never met her.
Left her a message with my condolences at first then asked if she could call me about extending the Eviction 30 days.
Thought for sure that was gonna go right out the window, but around 5pm she called me.
We actually had a really good conversation. I immediately told her how sorry I was about her dad passing and that he was always so nice when we'd come to visit.
She said he had great things to say about Cheryl and me.
She said she would give the extra 30 days but let me know the property is a liability she can't afford to keep!
I totally understood and thanked her!
WHEW!!!!!
 
Good things happen to good people. He spoke well enough but help you after he is gone...thats a blessing for being a decent pair of humans.

Now get working on the real problems, moving MIL/BIL somewhere, decluttering their stuff and placing the animals.
 
Yep, We are headed down Sat morning.
I told Cheryl, let's solve one problem at a time!
Problem 1)
This weekend is about gettng rid of stuff they don't need.
1 pile of trash
1 for donations...I will take all the donation stuff back with us and get rid of it.

Problem 2)
The following weekend will be dealing with stuff they want and need to keep...absolute necessities. They need to declutter.
We'll get a storage unit and put it all there...A SMALL STORAGE UNIT!!!!

Then problem 3 will be finding a place out there for her.

I know some will say just move them in with you!
NOPE! My wife has been through this crap with her mom time and time again! You can't live the same way and expect different results, stop playing the victim!
It is a harsh reality, but they have made these choices their whole lives.
So, with that, she may have to find a room to rent somewhere...Jerry can go to Salvation Army or live in his truck somewhere for all I care!
 
dbart said:
Yep, We are headed down Sat morning.
I told Cheryl, let's solve one problem at a time!
Problem 1)
This weekend is about gettng rid of stuff they don't need.
1 pile of trash
1 for donations...I will take all the donation stuff back with us and get rid of it.

Problem 2)
The following weekend will be dealing with stuff they want and need to keep...absolute necessities. They need to declutter.
We'll get a storage unit and put it all there...A SMALL STORAGE UNIT!!!!

Then problem 3 will be finding a place out there for her.

I know some will say just move them in with you!
NOPE! My wife has been through this crap with her mom time and time again! You can't live the same way and expect different results, stop playing the victim!
It is a harsh reality, but they have made these choices their whole lives.
So, with that, she may have to find a room to rent somewhere...Jerry can go to Salvation Army or live in his truck somewhere for all I care!
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I have a 26' flatbed you're welcome to borrow if you need something easy to move shit with.
 
Thanks @Rockwood I have my 16' box trailer, but my wife said let's not bring it.
what can fit in the bed of my truck is what we are taking. There is a trailer there they use to take to the dumb...that's on Chery's brother. We'll just load it up.
We have decided we are not dealing with big furniture items, partly because most of the furniture is Wes' anyways so we can't' take it.
If need be I will bring my trailer down next weekend...but there shouldn't be that much stuff to go in storage.
Mom and Jerry have to pair down.

But seriously, thank you again for the offer...that is awesome!
 
dbart said:
Yep, We are headed down Sat morning.
I told Cheryl, let's solve one problem at a time!
Problem 1)
This weekend is about gettng rid of stuff they don't need.
1 pile of trash
1 for donations...I will take all the donation stuff back with us and get rid of it.

Problem 2)
The following weekend will be dealing with stuff they want and need to keep...absolute necessities. They need to declutter.
We'll get a storage unit and put it all there...A SMALL STORAGE UNIT!!!!

Then problem 3 will be finding a place out there for her.

I know some will say just move them in with you!
NOPE! My wife has been through this crap with her mom time and time again! You can't live the same way and expect different results, stop playing the victim!
It is a harsh reality, but they have made these choices their whole lives.
So, with that, she may have to find a room to rent somewhere...Jerry can go to Salvation Army or live in MY truck somewhere for all I care!
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fixed it for you
 
dbart said:
Thanks @Rockwood I have my 16' box trailer, but my wife said let's not bring it.
what can fit in the bed of my truck is what we are taking. There is a trailer there they use to take to the dumb...that's on Chery's brother. We'll just load it up.
We have decided we are not dealing with big furniture items, partly because most of the furniture is Wes' anyways so we can't' take it.
If need be I will bring my trailer down next weekend...but there shouldn't be that much stuff to go in storage.
Mom and Jerry have to pair down.

But seriously, thank you again for the offer...that is awesome!
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No prob bob. Let me know, might be easier than hauling a trailer back and forth.
 
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